How To Love Yourself More: The O Defense Pattern

If you would like to learn a little about the 5 defense patterns, go check out this blog post and see what you think you are. Below is help for the O defense type or anyone who would like to learn to love and care for themselves more.

What is the O-Type Defense Pattern?

When I think of the O-type, I think of them talking non-stop. They are one of the most difficult to spot in relationships because their true colors don’t always show until you get to know them, and when you do, they suck your life away. What I mean by that is that they are desperate for love, attention, validation, and it never seems to be enough. Once they start to unwind into self-loathing, there is nothing you can do or say to convince them otherwise. Just ride the wave. 

The O-type personality is that person who thinks that everyone hates them, but everyone knows that everyone loves them. It can be infuriating to be in a relationship with someone who is an O-type because you want them to just accept how awesome they are, but they just keep questioning themselves and if they are enough. The O-type struggles to love themselves and they are constantly looking for outside love and validation, but even when they finally get the love and attention, they question it.

If you are an O-type, it is important to recognize this pattern in yourself, and trust the people who say that they love you no matter what. Love yourself even when you feel like no one is loving you. Notice the people who are loving you and BELIEVE THEM. Don’t worry if you don’t always get the validation that you want, sometimes you won’t. Ask yourself, “What is motivating my behavior?” Is it to get love and validation because you don’t feel like you are enough, or is it to help others be validated, loved and connected?

The O-type can be a lot of fun because they aim to be loved and validated. So when they are in their best frame of mind, they can be great performers and friends. When they are not trying to get love and validation for themselves, a lot of the O-types that I know are very loving and validating people--and that’s a great quality to have.

Here are some statements to help the O-type defense pattern learn to be enough and love themselves more:

I forgive myself for believing I’m empty.

I forgive myself for believing I am unfilled.

I forgive myself for believing I lack self love. 

I forgive myself for withholding love from myself.

I forgive myself for blaming others for my emptiness and lack of fulfillment

I forgive myself for believing I don’t have enough of anything.

I forgive myself for believing I will never have enough of anything.

I forgive myself for creating life experience cues to prove I never have enough.

I forgive myself for withholding love from others.

I forgive myself for believing everyone leaves me.

I forgive myself for believing I am abandoned. 

I forgive myself for abandoning myself.

I forgive myself for abandoning others. 

I forgive myself for failing to love myself.

I forgive myself for believing I don’t have enough to give.

I forgive myself for believing I can’t give or I will be left empty.

I forgive myself for taking without giving.

I forgive myself for being selfish.

I forgive myself for believing I am weak.

I forgive myself for believing I have no energy to metabolize. 

I forgive myself for believing I have no infinite, divine, Holy Spirit resource within.

I forgive myself for failing to love and honor God who is my infinite resource. 

I forgive myself for turning off God, my infinite resource. 

I forgive myself for choosing behavior to validate my weakness and neediness.

I forgive myself for believing I’m not enough.

I forgive myself for believing I don’t have enough.

I forgive myself for when I choose behavior that cuts off God, my infinite resource of love. 

I forgive myself for believing I don’t know I am enough. 

I forgive myself for believing I can’t love myself. 

I forgive myself for believing I am needy. 

I forgive myself for failing to love and nurture myself. 

I forgive myself for withholding love from myself to maintain my emptiness.

I forgive myself for believing I can’t feel fulfillment within me. 

I forgive myself for ignoring God’s gifts filling me.

I forgive myself for believing I don’t have enough time. 

I forgive myself for believing there isn’t enough time.

I forgive myself for believing I hate being here. 

I forgive myself for wasting time. 

I forgive myself for creating life experiences that validate I don’t have enough time. 

I give myself permission to accept I am enough, I have enough. 

I give myself permission to to accept I am full. 

I give myself permission to create fulfilling and validating life experiences. 

I give myself permission to love and nurture myself. 

I give myself permission to accept that in loving and nurturing myself I can better love and nurture my relationships

I give myself permission to have enough. 

I give others permission to be enough. 

I love and accept myself letting God be enough.

I give myself permission to love and care for my body, mind, and spirit. 

I give myself permission to accept God’s infinite love and resources. 

I give myself permission to give out of the well of God’s infinite resources. 

I give myself permission to give without fear of being empty. 

I give myself permission to love myself more. 

I give myself permission to let God’s love flow through me in my love for my relationships. 

Be Less Defensive

If you want to heal these underlying patterns and be less defensive, Emotional Polarity Technique is a great place to start. Whether you want to be your true authentic self (R-type), connect more in your body (S-type), love yourself more (O-type), love others more (M-type), or listen better (P-type), the holistic therapy at open heart holistic therapy is built for you.