Be You.

I have had a number of people come into my office and they are afraid to be themselves. They feel like when they are true to themselves it isn’t taken the right way. They are interpreted wrongly or misjudged. Then there are others who feel marginalized because of their sexual orientation, race, or culture. Some feel alienated by their family: the black sheep. Or all of the above. 

Check out these blog posts to see more on Choosing To Be Yourself and Being Your Authentic Self for even more support!

Wherever your insecurity about being yourself stems from, at Open Heart Holistic Therapy we strive to create a safe space for you to be you. We tackle head-on whatever trauma or drama that produces any anxiety, insecurity, or depression. 

In the meantime, here are some reasons you need to be you: 

1. Not being yourself is EXHAUSTING.

Not being able to just be yourself is stress and anxiety-inducing. If from childhood your ability to be creative, explore, and have relationships was overly controlled or stunted or stereotyped, then of course it will feel difficult being yourself as an adult. The miracle of adulthood is that now you have the freedom to cultivate and create the community and resources that you want. You can choose.

Unfortunately, because of those old patterns, we often end up choosing relationships where we don’t feel safe to be ourselves or where we feel rejected. Subconsciously, you are hoping that the current relationship with change because the person who rejected you in your past never changed. 

What is amazing about the holistic therapy Emotional Polarity Technique is that we go back to these old unresolved conflicts and let them go with forgiveness. So after a session, you feel more relaxed and open to totally different healthier relationship patterns. The old feelings of rejection and inauthenticity go away so you can be you and pursue community and relationships where you can grow and heal. 

2. You are a human being with dignity and should be treated with respect. 

All humans want to fit in. We want to feel like we belong and have a purpose, but sometimes we don’t. It could be stemming from a multitude of factors (in or out of your control). For you, and for everyone else, remember: everyone has dignity and should be respected.

Give yourself the gift of dignity and respect by not letting another person treat you like trash. With holistic therapy, we can boost your self-esteem so you can leave and/or create healthy boundaries with those toxic relationships and systems bringing you down. 

3. You have a place of BELONGING.

Even though the people you want may not fully accept you the way you are, there is a family or community out there who will fully love and accept you. 

In any therapeutic modality, your therapist wants you to seek and develop healthy resources and relationships. People come in feeling like they are all alone. People come in feeling like they have no one they can rely on to support them emotionally. It is my job to support you being you and encourage you to get out and find where you are safe to be you and go there! 

4. The world needs you to be you.

You are here for a reason. You are needed being you and not anyone else. 

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Here are some statements to help be you even when someone else doesn’t like it:

I forgive myself for believing I’m not allowed to be me.

I forgive myself for believing I have to feel insecure or angry when someone doesn’t like me being me.

I forgive myself for believing someone knows better for me about who I am.

I forgive myself for believing no one needs me.

I forgive myself for believing I’ll never fit in anywhere.

I forgive myself for believing I have to be something else to be accepted.

I forgive myself for the shame and guilt I feel being myself.

I forgive others when they are angry or insecure because of me being me.

I forgive others when they hurt my feelings because I can’t be me.

I forgive others when they don’t show me dignity and respect as a human being.

I give others permission to forgive me when I don’t show them dignity and respect as a human being.

I give others permission to forgive me when they feel insecure being themselves around me because it makes me uncomfortable.

I love and accept myself even when I make someone else uncomfortable.

I love and accept myself being me.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid being my full self will just make everything worse.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I’ll never be accepted anywhere as myself.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid my real self will never be good enough.

I give myself permission to accept that I have the freedom to choose my community. 

I give myself permission to accept that I belong and have a purpose.

I give myself permission to accept I am needed.

I give myself permission to let go of being something different or be something not me.

I give myself permission to love the outcasts.

I give myself permission to show up and love others more who don’t feel accepted by anyone.

Without this pattern I am free to be me.

Without this pattern I am free to choose my family.

Without this pattern I am free to let myself, my kids and my partner be who God created them to be. 

If you are still struggling to be yourself out of some old fear or trauma, reach out and make an appointment at Open Heart Holistic Therapy. If you want to learn more about the holistic therapy Emotional Polarity Technique, read more here!