P Defense Type: Let Go Of Old Mistakes And Feelings Of Betrayal

If you would like to learn a little about the 5 defense patterns, go check out this blog post and see what you think you are. Below is help for the M defense type or anyone who would like to feel free to choose and let go of needing to be in control.

P - The Ones Who Feel Betrayed

Being a P-type is probably the most difficult type. I don’t want this to be true, but it seems pretty true. When a P is in defense mode they are always 100% right about everything and they will conflict with you on everything. What they want more than anything is to feel listened to. And if they don’t feel listened to, then you have betrayed them. 

The problem with the P-type always being right in their defensiveness is that they end up alienating themselves from everyone, and ultimately blame everyone else for their problems (because they can never be wrong). It can be kind of hard to get close to a P because they don’t really try to get to know you, and they don’t really care what you think, they just want to be right. 

If you are in a relationship with a P-type, the way to make them happy is to listen and just repeat back to them whatever it is they said. If you repeat back to them what they said, they can’t disagree with themselves, and it will deescalate the conversation. 

If you are someone who is a P-type, you have to let go of being right all the time and admit wrong. Well, that is if you want to have any deep meaningful connected relationships in your life. 

Personally, I don’t usually mind the P-type as a friend because you just let them talk and talk and talk and talk, and they are super loyal to you. They can even be fun to have conversations and arguments with, they don’t take the argument personally, and they are usually very smart. 

Here are some statements to help you let go feeling betrayed so you can love, honor, and respect yourself and others more:

I forgive myself for believing I am betrayed.

I forgive myself for believing everyone betrays me.

I forgive myself for betraying myself.

I forgive myself for betraying others.

I forgive myself for identifying myself through betrayal I experience.

I forgive myself for believing I am betrayed.

I forgive myself for believing everyone betrays me.

I forgive myself for betraying myself.

I forgive myself for betraying others.

I forgive myself for identifying myself through betrayal experience.

I forgive myself for believing I can’t let go and trust.

I forgive myself for believing I don’t trust God’s control. 

I forgive myself for believing I have to be afraid of trust. 

I forgive myself for believing when I let go I’m hurt and betrayed.

I forgive myself for failing to love and respect God’s divine control.

I forgive myself for putting myself in the role of God by trying to control.

I forgive myself for believing I am used and betrayed.

I forgive myself for believing I don’t trust God‘s control. 

I forgive myself for believing I have to be afraid of trust. 

I forgive myself for believing when I let go I am hurt and betrayed.

I forgive myself for failing to love and respect God‘s divine control.

I forgive myself for putting myself in the role of God by trying to control.

I forgive myself for believing I am used and betrayed.

I forgive myself for believing I deserve to be used and betrayed.

I forgive myself for using and betraying others.

I forgive myself for creating life experiences that attract betrayal.

I forgive myself for believing I must control others.

I forgive myself for believing control is my only defense.

I forgive myself for using control to validate my betrayal and perpetuate a false identity.

I forgive myself for being controlling.

I forgive myself for believing I deserve pain and aggression. 

I forgive myself for believing life is a battle.

I forgive myself for believing all I know is the trail in confrontation.

I forgive myself for choosing aggression to validate that life is a battle.

I forgive myself for creating a battle.

I forgive myself for believing I am created bad.

Forgive myself for believing I am created flawed.

I forgive myself for believing God made a mistake when he made me.

Forgive myself for believing I am pure evil.

I forgive myself for choosing behavior to validate my evil.

I forgive myself for failing to love an honor and know my true divine goodness.

I forgive myself for believing I am held responsible for the mistakes others make.

I forgive myself for believing I am not safe when others make mistakes.

I forgive myself for my own mistakes.

I forgive myself for failing to allow others to be responsible for their own mistakes.

I forgive myself for failing to trust in God‘s plan.

I forgive myself for believing others have no right to make mistakes.

I forgive myself for failing to honor the higher will of others. I forgive myself for believing I’m not safe here and now.

I forgive myself for believing I must rush into the future.

I forgive myself for believing I have to hate being here.

I forgive myself for rushing into the future.

Forgive myself for failing to love and savor the present moment.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I will be betrayed.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I can’t trust God.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid control is my only way.

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I made a mistake. 

I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid someone I love made a mistake and it’s my fault.

I give myself permission to accept that I can feel safe trusting others.

Give myself permission to accept and be protected by God.

I give myself permission to accept that I can have faith in God’s divine control.

I give myself permission to let go and trust.

I give myself permission to know I am loved and appreciated and heard.

I give myself permission to accept and experience mutual love and respect in my relationships.

I give myself permission to accept that I am respected.

I give myself permission to love and respect God’s divine control

I give myself permission to accept and let others be responsible for the choices they make.

I give myself permission to accept love, honor and respect. I gave myself permission to accept I am heard. I give myself permission to be heard.

I give myself permission to attract love, honor and respect.

I give myself permission to accept that I am good.

I give myself permission to love honor and respect the purity and goodness of my divinely created being.

I give myself permission to create relationships that demonstrate my innate goodness.

I give myself permission to feel the goodness of God radiating through me.

I give myself permission to trust others to make mistakes and then I will still be safe.

I give myself permission to love and honor the right of each individual to make mistakes and be responsible for themselves.

I give myself permission to recognize and honor each individual and their right to own their higher will.

I give myself permission to feel safe in the present.I give myself permission to savor the moment.

I give myself permission to love being here now.

Be Less Defensive

If you want to heal these underlying patterns and be less defensive, Emotional Polarity Technique is a great place to start. Whether you want to be your true authentic self (R-type), connect more in your body (S-type), love yourself more (O-type), love others more (M-type), or listen better (P-type), the holistic therapy at open heart holistic therapy is built for you.