How to Forgive and Reconnect with Your Mom

Forgiveness can be a difficult process, especially when it comes to forgiving someone close to you like your mom. But remember this: though it can be hard to forgive and reconnect with a parent, it is possible!  

Forgiveness therapy like the Emotional Polarity Technique™ can help you work through your feelings of hurt and resentment, allowing you to get back on the path of reconciliation. With patience, understanding, and openness, you can learn how to forgive and reconnect with your Mom.  

I’ll show you how! 

How Can I Forgive When I Feel So Hurt?  

I get it, forgiving someone can be one of the most difficult things to do, especially when you feel deeply hurt. If you're struggling with forgiving your mom for the past, know that it's okay to feel this way. It's a natural human response to want to protect ourselves from pain and disappointment. 

However, holding onto anger and resentment can harm us in the long run. It can lead to feelings of bitterness and anxiety, which can affect our mental health and relationships with others. So how do you forgive your mom when you feel so hurt?  

Here are some of the best ways that I have found to help the healing begin: 

#1. Let Go of Resentment  

One of the first steps in forgiveness therapy is to acknowledge the pain that your mom has caused you. It's important to allow yourself to feel all of your emotions—anger, sadness, frustration—without judgment or shame. This is where forgiveness starts.  

It's important to remember that forgiveness is not about excusing someone's behavior or forgetting the pain they've caused us. Instead, it's about freeing ourselves from the burden of anger and bitterness. By releasing these negative emotions, we open ourselves up to healing and growth. 

Through forgiveness comes true healing which  

benefits everyone around us.  

Talking openly with your mom about how you feel is a great first step toward resolving any issues or resentment between you two. It may be difficult at first, but approaching the conversation with empathy and understanding can help your both move forward. Remember, we all make mistakes— including moms!  

#2. Reframe Your Expectations  

As we grow older, we realize that our parents are not perfect. They make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes hurt us deeply. We hold them to high standards because they play a significant role in our lives so forgiving them can be one of the most challenging things to do.  

Instead of expecting yourself to completely forgive and forget all at once, reframe your expectations and try taking small steps towards forgiveness each day.  

Another helpful approach is to focus on empathy and understanding. While it may be difficult to put yourself in your mother's shoes, trying to understand her perspective can help you find compassion and forgiveness.  

#3. Try to Reconnect 

As hard as it may seem, reconnecting with your mom could be a crucial step in the process of forgiveness. This doesn't mean that you have to pretend like everything is fine. Rather, it means opening up channels of communication and being willing to listen and understand each other's perspectives. 

Forgiveness is not a one-time choice but a journey.  

It takes time and effort to work through past traumas and build healthier relationships with those who have hurt you. Sometimes you have to take a step back to reassess your feelings before you can move forward, and that’s okay.  

#4. Let Your Mom Back into Your Heart  

If you’re feeling distant from your mom, it may be time to recognize the goodness in her that your pain has pushed aside. It's easy to focus on negative memories and let them cloud your judgment, but you must remember that your mom is human too, with her own struggles and challenges. 

Take a moment to reflect on the positive moments you've shared with her. Remember how she comforted you when you were sick or celebrated with you when you accomplished something great? Let those memories bring warmth into your heart and allow yourself to feel some compassion for her journey as well. 

#5. Don’t Rush the Process  

Forgiving someone, especially when it is your mom who you may have a complicated past with, can be a difficult journey. It's important to remember that this isn't a quick-fix process and you need to take your time.  

Don't rush yourself or the process.  

Allow yourself the space and time to reflect on why you are forgiving her and how it will benefit both of you in the long run. 

You might feel unsettled or emotional throughout this process but know that this is normal. Forgiveness requires you to confront your emotions honestly and openly, so don't suppress any feelings that resurface. Instead, try journaling or talking with a trusted friend about what comes up for you. 

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Forgive with an Open Heart  

Forgiving your mom and fostering a new beginning is possible. With the help of EPT™ Therapy, you can take back control and move forward with a healthier relationship. By using this holistic modality, you will see how to identify and process negative emotions and find healthier ways to communicate them.  

You will also discover how to let go of resentment and embrace understanding and compassion in your relationship with your mom. By taking the steps towards forgiveness, you will be able to build a stronger, more meaningful bond with her. 

Sound good? Start healing with me, Paige Cargioli! Schedule your first 30-minute consultation today!