Spoiler Alert: Hard Things Happen
Spoiler Alert: Hard Things Happen
No, you didn’t deserve it, but you also didn’t not deserve it.
Why me?
Why not me?
Why did I get cancer?
Why did my child die?
Why did my house burn down?
Why was I in that car accident?
Why was I abused?
Why was I abandoned?
Why did my marriage fail?
Shit happens that is totally out of our control.
Let me take a pause here.
There is grief. There is processing. There is hell. There is despair. There is deep deep loneliness. There are questions. There is crying. There is loss of sleep. There is pain and suffering. There is complete and utter abandonment.
All that happens too, and that’s ok, and it does something to push us forward to a new reality that we can finally begin to shape. And in that, it is important to have the support and resources when tough stuff happens. It is important that you continue to give and receive love in the tough stuff.
You can’t change the circumstances, but how we deal with them is superfluid. We weave in and out of the despair and the contentment. And when the despair hits it can feel like forever, and when the peace is there it seems it doesn’t last long enough.
EPT Helps In The Hard Things
With the holistic therapy I practice, Emotional Polarity Technique, we help the despair parts be shorter, and the peaceful parts be longer. And when things feel like they’re falling apart, EPT can be there to get you through faster. If you don’t want to go deep and fast, then I wouldn’t recommend this therapy for you. This is a space to feel all the feelings, say all the things, forgive from every perspective, be grateful even though it might suck, and grow in openness to infinite possibilities. So, don’t come if you don’t want that.
I see people in some of their darkest places, and I have to remind them that when they get out of that dark place, something totally random could happen--a hard thing--that challenges AGAIN. That’s why it is so important to have a therapist at the ready. Someone who knows you, knows where you’re coming from, and where you want to go--even when shit hits the fan again and again.
Don’t hesitate, be prepared to get the love and help you need as soon as the hard thing happens because, spoiler alert, it will.
Here are some affirmations to get you started with it:
I forgive myself for believing hard things will never happen to me.
I forgive myself for believing I have to ignore hard things when they happen.
I forgive myself for believing I can’t handle THIS hard thing.
I forgive myself for believing this hard thing should have never happened to me.
I forgive myself for believing I have to be stuck with this hard thing forever.
I forgive myself for believing it was my fault this thing happened.
I forgive others who abandon me in the hard thing.
I forgive others who didn’t help.
I give others permission to forgive me when I can’t handle their hard thing.
I give others permission for forgive me when I can’t help.
I give others permission to forgive me when I abandon them.
I forgive myself for believing I’m entitled to a perfect life.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid that if I get past one difficult thing it will lead to another.
I give myself permission to accept I’ve gotten through hard things before.
I give myself permission to accept others have been through a similar challenge and got through and even thrived.
I give myself permission to accept I am allowed to live a full life through and after this challenge.
I give myself permission to accept I am worthy of thriving.
I give myself permission to accept love, forgiveness, and happiness in difficult life circumstances.
I give myself permission to get help when I need it.
I give myself permission to face new challenges.
I give myself permission to accept I can get better.
I give myself permission to love myself even with this circumstance.
I give myself permission to accept love from others as I go through this life circumstance.
I give myself permission to love others in similar though life circumstances.
I give myself permission to be grateful for the people around me.
I give myself permission to thrive and be creative again.
If you’re going through a hard thing, or know you’ll need help when one happens, consider a free 30 minute consult to see if EPT is right for you. When you’re ready book a 90-minute first session!