I Can Show Up
Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is just show up. - Brene Brown
In a previous blog, I introduced the 4 blocks to healing--Show up, pay attention, tell the truth, and let go. If you’re struggling with one of these, then healing is a lot tougher. Same thing in any sort of growth of your money, business, or relationships. To actively show up, pay attention, tell the truth, and let go--transformation with happen.
These 4 ideas come from the book “The Four Fold Way” by Angeles Arrien. In Emotional Polarity Technique, I test to see if for a certain narrative or thought pattern one of these is weak, this way, I can incorporate affirmation to help with these 4 blocks.
This week, we’re talking about SHOWING UP.
Show Up.
A client asked me once, “What do you mean by showing up?” It means to be there. Present. Not floating up in the clouds. It is step one. Showing up is usually an action. It means turning off your phone. Turning off the TV. Putting your preoccupation down. Going to the gym. Going to the doctor. Going to the therapist. Reaching out to a friend. Writing that letter you’ve been putting off.
Showing up is the first bodily movement into the other three actions. If you’re not there, showing up, then it’s a lot harder to also pay attention, tell the truth, and let go.
Be There For Yourself And Others.
Showing up requires vulnerability and bravery. It might be that showing up is hard for you because when you did in the past, you were rejected or hurt or didn’t get what you wanted. So now, you get stuck showing up because you’re afraid to fail, not get (or get) attention, or be hurt.
When you are showing up for what you want, what is good, what is love and compassion--you may still be rejected or hurt or fail, but you may not. You will also succeed. Love, compassion, passion, mercy, forgiveness are always worth showing up for.
Below are some statements to help you show up. Say each statement out loud and take a deep breathe after each one:
I Forgive Myself For Believing...
I can’t show up.
Showing up is dangerous.
Showing up isn’t worth it.
I’ll be hurt if I show up.
It’s better not to show up to protect me.
It’s too hard to be present.
Being present means rejection, failure, or hurt.
I Forgive Others…
For hurting me when I show up.
For rejecting me when I show up.
For failing me.
For teaching me it’s not worth it to show up.
For teaching me I’m not worth showing up for.
For not showing up for me.
For not being there for me.
I Give Others Permission To Forgive Me For…
Not showing up.
Giving up.
Not being fully present.
For blaming them for why I don’t show up.
Being angry when they don’t show up, or show up how I don’t want them to.
I Love And Accept Myself Even When I’m Afraid To Show Up.
I Give Myself Permission To Show Up And Feel Love, Forgiveness, Happiness, Safe, Secure, And Complete.
I Give Myself Permission To Show Up In Faith, Knowing I Am Competent And Efficient.
I Give Myself Permission To Show Up Knowing I Am Worthy.
I Give Myself Permission To Show Up Even If I May Be Rejected Or Fail.
Without This Fear, I Am Free To Show Up In My Life With Vulnerability And Bravery.
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