Healing Is Not Linear
Hard Days Do Not Mean You Failed
There is this false belief out there that if you do everything right, then you will be healed, and you will never have to deal with that (or another) problem/challenge/issue/trauma again. It is embedded in our culture--a “fix it” mentality.
Just be positive.
Just eat right.
Just work out more.
Just go to church.
Just pray or meditate more.
Just do yoga.
Just go on a date.
Just break up with him.
Just take the meds.
If you finally do that magical thing then your problem will go away never to return (as long as you are doing the thing). And if you are on this healing journey, you will probably find something that works for a time. If you have a good therapist or friend who knows you, and is keeping you accountable, you may notice that your depression is less, you have been more active, you are generally happier, or whatever you are hoping for… Things DO get better!!!!
BUT THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS (or nothing obvious happens)
That sends you back into the anxiety, depression, stress, self-loathing, laziness, emptiness, loneliness, sadness, pain, insomnia, tiredness etc etc etc.
And you want to give up.
The Truth Is: Healing Is Not Always Linear
And just because you are hurting again, it DOES NOT mean that you failed. You did not go backwards. You are still healing. You are on this journey and it is still going. There is still hope. Healing is still happening. It’s ongoing. It’s changing. It’s transforming.
Hard things are still hard. But you are better than you were before. You have tools. You have people. You have connections. You love yourself more. The pain is not as powerful and it is not at all the same, because you are not the same. You are loved.
Some Affirmations To Help
Here are some forgiveness statements and affirmations to help you get through the hard healing days:
I forgive myself for believing this problem will never go away.
I forgive myself for believing I’m broken forever.
I forgive myself for believing I’m I failed AGAIN at healing.
I forgive myself for believing I’ll never get better.
I forgive myself for believing I’ll hit the same wall again.
I forgive myself for believing I have to give up when things are hard.
I forgive myself for believing I have to feel hopeless when there’s a problem… again.
I forgive others when they blame me for the problem.
I forgive others for making more problems.
I forgive others for abandoning me in my healing process.
I forgive others for believing I’m broken.
I forgive others for believing I never change.
I forgive others for believing change and healing are hopeless.
I give others permission to forgive me for blaming them for why I feel hopeless.
I give others permission to forgive me when I think they are hopeless.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I’ll fail.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I’ll get better, then get worse.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid healing would not be good for me.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid something else will happen.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid I’m not worthy of healing.
I love and accept myself even when I’m afraid change doesn’t matter.
Without this hopelessness, I am free to feel worthy of healing.
Without this hopelessness, I am free to feel confident and content where I am on my healing journey.
Without this hopelessness, I am free to feel secure, safe, and complete with myself where I am.
I give myself permission to accept I was always worthy.
I give myself permission to accept I always have access to healing, change, transformation, peace, happiness, security, etc etc etc
I give myself permission to accept I can choose new creative ways of handling hard things.
I give myself permission to accept hard things are normal.
I give myself permission to accept I can do hard things.
I give myself permission to accept I can love myself and accept others love through the hard things.
Reach Out For A Free Consult
Your healing might not always be linear, but with some structured holistic therapy like Emotional Polarity Technique™, you will find relief. You will find a welcoming and compassionate space to be you without judgment. If you have hit a wall or another hard thing, don’t hesitate to reach out, I have enough belief in your healing for both of us.